There are some men who go through life with a permanent frown on their face. They feel put down and rejected. Their feelings may be very real but that kind out outlook on life is not very attractive. People like to be with other people who are fun and seem to enjoy life. Try to look upon life this way or if you can't, at least pretend and maybe one day you will. You may not feel confident at first but giving the impression that you are confident can be very attractive. The more you date, and the more women you meet, the more confident you will become.
Smile a lot. But don't be goofy. Show women that you like life. Just about everyone likes to laugh and likes to be with people who make them laugh. Humor is also a good way to show your intelligence. But never laugh at your height or make jokes about it. Don't draw attention to your height. Don't be the court jester. Let women see you for the hundreds of other positive qualities that you possess.
Self-confidence can be a struggle for short men. It's a Catch-22: You need self-confidence to succeed but you may need a history of successes to have self-confidence. Somehow you must break out of the negative cycle and have faith in yourself. If you want someone to believe in you, you have to believe in yourself.
Your self-confidence is exhibited not just in what you have to say and how you say it but in the way you present yourself. Be conscious of what your body language is saying about you. Do you look tense or angry? Do you cross your arms or clench your fists? Do you spent most of your time looking down at your feet? All of these positions signal a person who is on guard or feeling inferior.
Open yourself up. Invite people in with body language that is relaxed and open. And perhaps most important of all, maintain eye contact. Show the person you are talking to, be it a friend or a woman you would like to get close to, that you are not afraid of them and that you are not mentally elsewhere. Look them in the eyes and be an active member of the conversation.
This is a good way to demonstrate that you are intelligent and have important things to say. Like anything else, showing good verbal skills requires practice. Put yourself in situations where you have to speak. Consider joining a Toastmasters club.
There may not be a lot that you can do about your height but you have a lot of other physical qualities that can probably be improved to make you more attractive to the opposite sex.
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Exercise is always good no matter what your immediate goals. Get those pecs and abs in shape. If you're flabby, work it off. Bulk up. However, be aware that many women prefer a man who is fit over a man who is bulging with muscles.
Here are some nation-wide fitness centers you might consider.
The Web sites of some of these gyms show tall and well built people so they may seem intimidating for the short man. Others, especially Wellbridge and the YMCA, are more appealing. There are also countless local fitness centers available in most urban and suburban centers.
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Going gray. There are many products at your local supermarket. Grecian Formula takes out the gray while maintaining your natural color. Products like Just For Men and Clairol Natural Instincts for Men color your hair to a shade that is right for you.
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Thinning Hair. Never before have there been so many options available.
Rogaine grows hair on the crown of the scalp, if that is where you are loosing your hair. However, it is not a good choice if you are thinning up front.
Propecia is a prescription medication that address male pattern hair loss that results in receding hairline and/or balding at the crown.
Hair Club for Men. The most drastic option uses hair replacement technology.
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Eating Habits.
Exercise can help a slightly overweight person sheds pounds but for people who inherited different genes, sometimes a change in lifestyle is also necessary. The word diet has gone out of fashion of late. Diets are used to get you down to a certain weight but may not teach you how to stay there. Instead, a fundamental change in eating habits, possibly for the rest of your life, may be called for.
Programs like Jenny Craig, L. A. Weight Loss and Weight Watchers have kept up with the times and offer a more holistic approach to weight loss. Just remember that there is no easy trick to loosing weight. It takes a lot of determination and commitment. Also, don't be fooled by promises of fad diets. Unless you develop healthy eating habits, anything that you do to take weight off quickly, will eventually have you put it back on just as quickly.
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Remember that Smile.
A big smile tells people that you are happy and fun to be with but if you teeth are green or crooked, it says something else. Make sure those pearly whites are really pearly white. In recent years, home whitening kits have become very popular and there are many choices. Crest and Colgate make daytime and nighttime whitening products including gels and strips.
Your dentist will be able to offer the best choices for getting your teeth white and straight.
Dress well.
Be conscious about how you dress, especially depending on the social situation. What you wear at the gym just won't cut it on that first date; unless of course your first date is at the gym. Consider subscribing to GQ to stay in touch with the latest fashions.
Power and leadership.
This may be a little more difficult but power is also an aphrodisiac. The president of a club gets a lot more respect and attention than the 30 other members. Put yourself in center stage. Be noticed.
Sorry but few of us short men are likely to have long-term relationships with drop dead gorgeous supermodels. It's OK to compromise. Just take some time to decide how much you are willing to compromise on your ideal of Miss Perfect. If you are too proud or idealistic, then you may have a long lonely life ahead.
Nothing is going to happen sitting home alone. Turn off the TV, shut down the computer and go out and meet people. Join a club or three. Got interests? Photography, acting, art, music, movies, debating, etc? Join a group based on something you're interested in so you can meet women who share that interest. Strike up conversations. Become friends and see what develops.
However, before you turn off that computer, you should seriously consider Online Personals as an option. With their advanced search options and features, they allow short men to concentrate their efforts on finding women with whom they may have a real possibility to date.
After all of these superficial changes, it's still important for you to be yourself. You want to put your best foot forward but you also don't want to sell a lie. What ever your interests, politics or religious beliefs, they are your own. Find comfort in the knowledge that you are a real person with your own unique understanding of the way the world works. Don't ever loose who you are.